Today was a nice day. Why? It is difficult to explain. Just feeling it was nice. May be because I was able to meet two friends after a long time. Particularly one whose wife is undergoing chemotherapy treatment for sometime. Just happened to pass that way when I rang him if he was home! The smile on his face on seeing me made my day. I realize it is very difficult for such people to call or visit anybody. Let us make a habit of taking the initiative and meet such suffering acquaintances because they will not be able to take the initiative!.
It is a story of little sparrow which most of you might have heard. The little sparrow was standing on beach of a giant ocean, hardly visible against the blue expanse. It was time and again dipping its tail into the water of the ocean and taking it out striking in the already wet sand. The process went on and on! Someone observing the action asked her as to what she was doing!
“I am trying to empty the ocean”
Surprised, the observer said “what you can never do it”!
“I know that,” pat came the reply.
“Then why you are wasting your time”?
“Lest I am blamed that I did not try”.
Most of us fail to take an action prejudging our failure to succeed. But we must learn that an effort for change has to be made without thinking of the results. A single action may motivate others to join in, and who knows, the ocean may be emptied!
The action of the four Supreme Court judges has to be seen in that perspective. They have done a great service to the nation and made their little contribution for the sake of saving democracy in India. Are there people who can join in in to save the important pilaar of democracy?
I wonder whether “Apologies” is the appropriate heading! Actually I do want to feel sorry for such a long absence which can be explained in many ways. The fact remains that I remained disconnected from my well wishers for so long and no apologies can fill that gap. I wish at least now I am a little more regular. I’ll try my best, friends but nothing can be guaranteed. So Here I go….Please bear with me for my lethargy!
Have a nice day
Today morning as I went to prepare my bed tea there was no tea leaf in the the container meant for this purpose. As I went to wake up my wife to ask where the tea leaves were, I found her enjoying peaceful sleep. I could not dare disturb her sleep and came back to the kitchen. I switched off the gas stove, searched for the tea leaves packet and filled the container with the tea leaves. As the brew changed the colour, I went back thirty years, the initials years of our marriage!
Would I have entered the kitchen so early then? No way, the MCP that I was, I would have woken up my wife rudely! Even if, assumed, had I entered the kitchen, the empty container would have made me furious and I would not even have noticed that my wife was sleeping! I would have simply shouted : ” What the hell you keep doing all day? Cannot even remember to keep the container full of tea-leaves?” And even after her having prepared the tea, I would have sipped it sulkily, cursing her for her absentmindedness as, in my perception then, it was her duty to keep all things ready! It is another matter that it would have wasted my morning also but who would have cared?
But years of living together and her silent suffering have brought a see change in my perception about our ‘roles’ and ‘duties’. I am more or less convinced that no one owes anything to the other….It has to be a mutual enterprise and this has eased things for me at least! over Thank God for this change in my perception!
Sometime back I read about the book “Hidden Persuaders” written by Vance Packard in 1956. It is interesting to note that the observations made almost a century ago seem more relevant today! At least in India….May be I am wrong Hidden persuaders are keeping their “iron grip” on the masses, almost everywhere like a curse! May be their ‘kind’ varies! Somewhere it is glamour, at others it is power, still others are followers of a religion…some others are simply salesmen!
It also defies logic as to Why intelligent people consider their pride and self image so fragile? Why do they get trapped by the sweet talk, knowing fully well that the celebrities are doing it only for money which is included in the pricing of the product? And politicians are doing for snatching power from their opponents? People often ignore their own rationality for dubious claims of the charmers! But why?
He was always a ‘mama’s’ boy. I hope you know what I mean. I believe in Indian situation, every boy is a mama’s boy. The degree may differ. But he was a mama’s boy by choice. Like most Indian mothers his mother had sacrificed her lot of comfort for his happiness. Seeing her slog (not in the usual sense of the term) he had decided early in life that he would never let her down, come what may. Probably he had written the script for his life quite early!
As usual, the situation had to change after his marriage. But, although he supported his wife duly, whenever there was a conflict between the two ladies, he stood by his mother, even inviting the wrath of his wife. He did realize that sometimes his wife was more correct than his mother but he stood by his resolution steadfastly. He always thought his mother would not be alive forever…so he could make amends after she departs for her heavenly abode.
Obviously, life and death are not a wishful thinking. As luck would have their youthful time passed more quickly than it should have! When the old lady said final goodbye, they were in their fifties. Was it too late? He made another resolution ….not to let down his wife any more. But the young lady (no more so young) viewed everything suspiciously. Sometimes shocked, at others simply surprised! He would stand by her when she faced the children (now quite grown up), her parents and siblings, even his own relatives! Gradually she understood and started enjoying the new relationship! Jointly they would rue for the lost youthful time but they decided not to waste the time on the past.
Recently read the story “A Family” by Guy de Maupassant and liked it…theme as well as presentation.It is a story about the plight of an old paralytic man who is denied food by his benefactors in the name of his health. The denial seems cruel to the narrator who feels that the entire family is actually enjoying the misery of the old man; and the denial is, actually, not to save the old man but to protect their own source of entertainment. ……A good peep into human psychology which also demonstrates that selfishness and cruelty is not the monopoly of any society and period.